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Why Hollywood Marriages Fail

Adam Scott

You often hear the statement "star power" used to explain why a celebrity marriage doesn't work out. And it's true that there's more to it than that. But if you ask people why they have failed at relationships, they often point to some of these underlying reasons.

Many of these reasons stem from personality differences between the spouses. These personality differences can be hard to overcome even when the celebrities want them to.

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Star power can also create jealousy, which can keep you from really falling in love. Also, lack of energy can be a strong deterrent to wanting to make things work.

You need to find the magic or you can't have the magic

It's not a lack of charisma, or commitment, or Hollywood star power that keeps a celebrity marriage from working out. It's the relationship itself.

And you, your partner, and the two of you together have to have the magic for it to work.

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Celebrities aren't married because they want to build their careers. They're married because they want to build a life.

Many of them don't get married until they feel that they have "earned" the right to be in a committed relationship. And some of them only marry once they feel they have built a career.

I love it when the star signs are "practically the same." When Jason Momoa, aka Aquaman, married Lisa Bonet, he married his Aries wife because he couldn't imagine having a life without her.

That's so pure and so magical. And it happened.

I didn't see it coming.

You need to respect and be grateful for your partner

You can't argue your way into a successful relationship or a successful marriage. If you have a problem with your partner or you expect to be the one to solve the problem, then you're never going to be able to truly give your all to the relationship.

You'll only be focusing on your problems instead of the problems in front of you and your partner.

To keep your relationship alive, you must be respectful and grateful to your partner. You can't expect your partner to do the work for you.

Respect and gratitude keep the spark alive, and also help to strengthen the bond between you.

You can't be a perfect cross-expert

I don't think Hollywood celebrities are perfect, either. They don't know everything, and even if they knew everything, there's no way they would be able to fix every problem, right?

There's no formula for success. You can't read a book on success or a book on marriage and then jump into the relationship with the expectation that it's going to work out in one easy step.

When you look at successful relationships, you'll find that they all follow some formula. If you don't know the formula, don't worry.

You can learn the formula and try it. And if it doesn't work, you can try another formula.

And if that doesn't work, you'll have tried a lot of different formulas and then you'll find one that does work.

And it's like with everything.

With one thing, there's no rule. With everything, there's a rule.

So, the same goes with a successful marriage.

You need to embrace the challenges and be true to your valuesGentleness.

  • You can't know everything.
  • Your spouse can't know everything.
  • Your marriage won't be perfect.
  • Some days will be hard, and some days will be great.

No one is perfect and no one will ever be perfect. And you won't be perfect, either.

But you're still going to have to love each other, be honest with each other, respect each other, and be grateful for each other.

And if you can find a way to do all of those things, even on the hardest days, you can have a successful marriage.

So, if you find out that you're not a Hollywood celebrity, you might want to give marriage a shot, anyway.

You might be surprised to find that the secret to a successful marriage is a lot more simple than you think. And it also has a lot more to do with loving your spouse and being grateful for your spouse than it has to do with what famous people are doing or not doing.

Marriages in America

Marriages in the U.S. are very, very, very difficult to start. The divorce rate here is high compared to other countries, but it doesn't stay that way very long.

If you are a married American and you are getting in touch with your inner child you will know that you are filled with a tremendous amount of anger and hurt. Most of this comes from your childhood and the early life experiences you had.

You may still hold a grudge against your parents for not sticking up for you or saying what you wanted to hear. It was not their fault you were lied to but the best they could do was tell you what they thought you wanted to hear.

One example is if your parents taught you that racism was a good thing you will be angry at your mother for treating you differently. If your parents treated you with love and respect you will be angry at them for not being smarter than the average bear.

Your parents may have taught you something to support the good things in life like working hard, living within your means, not cheating and committing crime, but they also taught you the things that destroyed your life like getting a tattoo, drugs, cheating on a spouse, being unfaithful, committing adultery, drinking alcohol, doing drugs, and the list goes on.

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The first step to dealing with all of the hurt in your life is to look inside and admit that you have all of these emotions inside of you. These are all your triggers.

Now you have to find a way to deal with them without going to those triggers. You cannot avoid them by just locking them in your box, because then the triggers will have all the control and you will be bombarded with emotions when you least expect it.

If your trigger was the fact that your parents divorced, then you have to figure out what triggered the divorce. Were you left to take care of your child alone when you were only a teenager?

What happened to that relationship between the two of you when you were supposed to be the man of the house? What happened to that mutual respect and understanding that you had when you were both adults?

Maybe you didn't have enough money to buy the pair of jeans or the shirt or the sneakers that you wanted and that was the problem that your parents could not resolve. These are the triggers that you have to get rid of.

If you have kids with the same mother then you have to figure out what she taught them that is keeping you from being close to them. You can't go around blaming her, because that will just cause more pain in your life.

If you are living with the father of your child you need to figure out why he is not getting close to your child and why you are not getting close to him. If he is just a new-age douchebag then you need to figure out why he thinks that way.

If you never had a father figure in your life then figure out why you have so much fear and anger towards men. It is a shame and a tragedy that men have to go through life without a father figure.

If your divorce was due to your spouse cheating on you, then you also have to get out of that place. Sometimes when we are dealing with our anger and hurt, we take it out on someone who is innocent.

Most often, this is our children and sometimes they don't even know that we are doing it. For example, if you have a child who is cheating on you then you are already dealing with a resentment toward your spouse.

And if you take it out on your child then you are not helping your situation at all. That child did nothing to you and it is just further poison in your life.

Heal and open up

Every hurt, disappointment, and unforgiveness is a door that you are opening yourself up to. You have to find a way to unlock this door and then walk through it.

Some people say that you should say the hurtful words that hurt you out loud. Or you can write them down in a journal. Or you can use a metaphor in your life that represents your feeling. "A green leaf is blue when viewed from above but when you hold it in your hand, it is green," you could say.

The important thing is that you have to do it. If you cannot do it then you need to find a way to make yourself do it.

Most of the time, the pain that we feel in life is from our trigger and it is a reaction to something that has happened. And the only way to change the reaction is to take the action that was missing.

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